Manzilian Waxing Etiquette

Handsome man in waxing room waiting respectfully ahead of his first Manzilian wax appointment

by Andrew Thompson

When a man arrives at a waxing studio for a Manzilian, or Men's Brazilian wax, both he and the waxing therapist are suddenly vulnerable.

It follows that most salons and waxing studios have policies for acceptable behaviour during your wax, not only for the therapist's protection, but for yours.

Universal Rules of Behaviour

There'll be an expectation that the client acts with courtesy, dignity, and respect.

In turn, assuming the studio doesn't offer adult extras, e.g. happy endings, the therapist will do all that he or she can to protect the client's modesty.

This last part is called their professional Duty of Care. It usually forms part of their terms of employment, and protects the client, the therapist, and the salon owner.

If the business does offer adult extras, this will generally be clearly stated in their advertising, again for everyone's protection.

These policies will vary from one establishment to the next. Some are largely universal, while others depend on your therapist's gender.

The basics

Etiquette when your therapist is female

Men will be left in the treatment room to prepare for their Manzilian wax. When the therapist is female, clients will usually be expected to wear disposable underwear for their Brazilian wax treatment.

You will also be required to hold the skin of your penis and scrotum tight so therapists don't have to touch your junk.

Some unisex studios might not be that prudish, but be prepared because it's definitely the norm.

Finally, your therapist is only doing her job. She sees men's junk all day. Your's isn't special, and she's not remotely excited to see it.

Etiquette when your therapist is male

Etiquette is usually less formalised with man-on-man waxing. I don't even have an official etiquette policy, simply because we're both men.

There's no gender disadvantage or confusion. A lifetime of being male has taught both therapist and client that they must treat each other respectfully to get along.

I discuss later how new male clients usually try to work out the sexual proclivities of their male therapist. It's reciprocal too. The therapist is trying to determine the same.

This process has nothing to do with sex. It's all about finding a starting point with a new client e.g. finding common ground and avoiding touchy topics. Therapists want to put new clients at ease, and as quickly as possible.

One of my usual introductory questions is, "Are you getting a Manzilian for yourself or for your partner?"

Straight guys typically jump on the subject and talk about their wife or girlfriend or how they've recently joined Tinder, just in case I was thinking of hitting on them.

Gay guys often run with it too, taking this early opportunity to out themselves to make sure that I'm gay-friendly, before complimenting my legs. 😇

Either way, this subtle approach lets me establish the tone of the waxing treatment, and also keep the client talking so they don't focus too much on any potential pain.

Waxing room fantasies

For clients, please realise that any erotic thrills you experience during your wax are purely your own. Your foggy brain might fantasise that since your therapist 'caused' your erection, they have an obligation to relieve it.

Don't go there. Unless you've gone to an obvious sex worker, or if the studio does offer extras and you've booked that service, your therapist won't finish you off. You'll just come off as a creep.

One other tip; If you do find that you're enjoying your waxing session too much and are dangerously close to climax, warn your therapist before it happens.

Let's be honest. You're a guy, I'm a guy, we 🖐🍆 a lot, we both know how this works.

A good ten seconds before you shoot your load, you feel that warmth in your perineum, then your balls start to rise and tighten.

You feel it building, tensing, and then boom. Your therapist has no idea you're about to 🚀 especially if it's a young female.

Right now, while some INNOCENT girl is holding your erection, is where you prove what kind of man you are. Nice guy or creep? The creep will let it happen, while the nice guy will tell her, "Please stop. I'm close".

Warn her early. She'll let go, and she'll look at you with new respect, abundantly grateful you didn't 💦 all over her face or uniform. You just proved yourself a man of good character. Feel great about yourself. Take a few breaths, and when you're ready to continue, let her know.

The mind of Manzilian wax therapists

Is there really a difference whether your Manzilian waxer is male or female? What they're thinking? How they regard you?

Absolutely.

There are quite a few considerations, and this is why you'll come across different rules of etiquette depending on the type of waxing provider you go to, and whether they have male or female staff.

What is she thinking about?

By default, females are skittish about doing men's waxing. I could have a big rant about sexism in the beauty industry, but there's a flipside to that argument in that a lot of women are just skittish about men in general.

After all, beauty salon operators and staff might view their workplace as a female safe place, a haven where they don't have to deal with men's 🐮💩.

There's also a fair chance that by the time most women enter the workforce, they've already had a few awful experiences with men.

Those two factors are absolutely the main reasons why most beauty salons don't offer male services, let alone Manzilians.

Of course there are exceptions to the 'timid flower' stereotype. Some women are tough as nails.

The reality though, is that most beauty therapists got into the industry to do facials and nails while skipping about looking pretty. Naked guys with boners hoping for hand jobs, aren't really what they signed up for.

Girls also have to deal with their partner's jealousy. Over the decades, I had perhaps a dozen girls tearfully give up their careers because a new boyfriend didn't trust them waxing other men.

In my view, that said a lot more about the new boyfriends than the girls, but it does suck.

So yeah, female therapists performing treatments on men can definitely be a mine field.

For all the above reasons, salons and studios that employ mostly female staff will have tough etiquette policies. And the cops on speed dial.

What is he thinking about?

It's a different experience for male waxing therapists, but can still be dicey. I stay on my toes until I know you.

An interesting quirk of the beauty industry that doesn't happen in any other, is that a man's sexual persuasion can be a major factor for his success or failure.

This is largely because new Manzilian Wax clients - especially jumpy alpha types - tend to think of their treatments sexually. Some will even ask outright if you're gay ... because apparently, they're too sexy to resist.

This type of pent up narcissist will judge a male therapist minutely; voice, clothes, the way he walks, everything, in an effort to gauge whether the therapist is likely to molest him.

In truth though, his fear is probably internalised. He's actually worried he'll get a boner while a male is holding his junk, and that's a lifetime of baggage he doesn't want to unpack.

Meanwhile, the therapist is simply doing his job, completely oblivious to said lunatic's delusions, and trying to make small talk to put the client at ease.

Is my male waxing therapist gay?

Male Brazilian wax therapists rarely reveal their sexual leanings, a) for fear of the above, and b) because it's nobody's business. However, it's a fair assumption that most, myself included, are bisexual.

Hardcore straight guys are too uptight to consider male waxing as a career. Living a pure vanilla life with a missus and 2.3 kids, means constantly caring about how colleagues and neighbours judge you.

Equally, outside of the inner-city gay districts in large cities, openly gay male therapists are a rarity too. Overt flamboyance is too much overload for the vast majority of straight male clients in the suburbs, and naturally, you can't survive in business without clients.

Bisexual guys are definitely the norm, or at least they become aware of their own bisexuality after a while in the job. This is due to their constant and unique exposure to clients' lifestyles, secrets, and fantasies - and mutual acceptance and trust - which breeds open-mindedness.

As a result, male Brazilian wax therapists are generally easygoing, confident in their skills, can see the world in shades of grey, and care little about other people's opinions.

Male-first studios with male therapists will usually have the most laidback etiquette policies because nothing a client does or says will surprise him. That won't necessarily make a client's behaviour acceptable, but he'll be prepared.

As for safety, a male therapist doesn't need the cops on speed dial. If you do the wrong thing, alpha or not, he'll kick your butt.